65 ways to nurture yourself

      Probably the most important component to demanding your joy is learning to take excellent care of yourself – mind, body, and spirit.  Think of caring for yourself as if you were your own child – giving to yourself at least as much as you give to others.  You are worth it! 

This is only a list of suggestions.  Please take the ones that speak to you and ignore the rest.  Enjoy!

1. Put a post-it on your mirror that says, “You look beautiful!” – and then accept the compliment every time you look at yourself.
2. Buy fresh flowers every now and then. – Brighten up the place.
3. Take a walk without a destination. – It’s a great way to get some exercise and clear your mind.  Be mindful of what you see, hear and feel.
4. Take a hot bath. – With bubbles.
5. List the things that you’re grateful for. – You can’t help but feel better when you literally count your blessings.
6. List the things that you like about yourself. – We can all list the things that we don’t like about ourselves.  Turn that around and think about your many positive qualities.
7. Treat yourself. – We struggle to be disciplined, especially with money and food.  You deserve a reward, right?
8. Smile. – It’s very difficult to feel bad when your face is happy.
9. Squash negative thoughts. – Listen to what’s going on in your head and actively quiet the voices of pessimists and critics.  Assume the best, not the worst.
10. Try something new. –  Do that thing you’ve always wanted to try.  The more experiences you have, the richer your life will be.
11. Get enough sleep. – Everything is hard when you’re tired.
12. Meditate. – It takes a little practice at first, but if you find a meditation that works for you, you will be calmer and more peaceful.
13. Drink plenty of water. – It’s basic, but it’s so good for you.
14. Stretch. – Before you start your day, take a few minutes for a good muscle stretch.  It just plain feels good.  And, it’s fast, easy and free.
15. Put some “me time” on your calendar. – When life gets busy, doing things for yourself is the first thing to be sacrificed.  So, actually block out time on your calendar.  
16. Call a friend. – Think of someone who you enjoy and ring them up!
17. Ask for help. – This can be hard.  But it’s so important to recognize when you need a sounding board, or some advice, or an extra pair of hands.
18. Say no. – Your time is valuable.  Set boundaries to avoid becoming overwhelmed.
19. Take a deep breath. – And another.  Now another.  It’s like a mini-break to reset yourself during the day.
20. Light a candle or use a reed diffuser. – Your sense of smell creates the strongest memories.  Find scents you love and enjoy them.
21. Get out into nature. – Reconnecting with the earth is just good for your soul. Feel the breeze.  Breathe the fresh air.  So good!
22. Give a compliment. – Telling someone that they had a fantastic idea or that they look beautiful in that color creates a pleasant environment and makes two people feel good for the price of one.
23. Listen to music. – Listen to whatever makes you happy.  
24. Play. – Something we forget as adults.  A board game, a sport, finger painting – find something frivolous and have fun!
25. Eat foods that you love. – Low fat, low calorie, low carb – blah, blah, blah.  Food is to be enjoyed!  Put food into your body that nourishes you in every way.
26. Be silly every now and again. – We take ourselves entirely too seriously.  Let go.  Be spontaneous and outrageous!
27. Limit screen time. – Too much time in front of computers, TV’s, video games, and blackberries (or all of the above) disconnects you from the world immediately around you and makes your brain mushy.  Make sure that you’re getting plenty of input from the non-virtual world.
28. Stop worrying. – It’s going to be fine.  Because it is.
29. Make sure your health is in order. – What’s more important than your health?  See your doctor regularly.  Make sure you are getting the vitamins or supplements that you need.  Advocate for yourself as you would for your child.
30. Give to someone in need. – Donating your time or your stuff or your money to someone less fortunate makes you feel good and puts your problems into perspective.
31. Sparkle! – Feeling schlumpy?  Get all dolled up. Wear something schmancy.  It’s a good way to find your strut.
32. Dance. – It’s inherently joyful.  You can’t be sad if you’re dancing!
33. Stand up for yourself. – Your needs are important.  Don’t let anyone disregard them.  Pushing back can be scary but it’s empowering too!
34. Find a mantra or an affirmation that lifts your spirits. – “Today is a new day.” “I know that life always supports me.” “I get everything that I want.”  Find one that works for you.
35. Get a massage. – What can I say?  It feels good.
36. Choose optimism. – Thinking positive thoughts has a tangible impact on your day and on your life.
37. Dream big. – You can do anything you set your mind to!
38. Tune out the naysayers. – People criticize for many reasons, most of which have nothing to do with you.  Follow your heart – not everyone has to get it.
39. Add color to your surroundings. – Beiges and taupes are pervasive these days.  Depressing.  Make sure that you introduce energetic colors where you work and where you live.
40. Surround yourself with the things you love. – Photos of loved ones or mementos that bring happy memories.  You should have the stuff that you love all around you.
41. Stop procrastinating. – Procrastination is a form of perfectionism.  Accept that it’s not going to be perfect and just get it over with.  Image how great it will feel to not have it hanging over your head any more!
42. Listen to your inner voice. – Your instincts are good.  It’s important to listen to your own head and heart.
43. Cut yourself some slack. – Arguably the most important tip on this list.  We hold ourselves to impossible standards and then beat ourselves up when we don’t meet them.  Would you be this hard on anyone else?
44. Slow down. – When you’re living your life at top speed, you’re missing most of it.  Stop and take a breath.  Look for ways to adopt a more humane pace.
45. Identify your passion. – What do you love?  Find something in your life that really floats your boat.
46. Move your body. – Run and jump and climb a tree.  Take a tap dancing class.  Power walk.  Anything that feels good that gets your blood moving.  The only limitation:  it has to be fun.  Don’t get on a treadmill if you hate the treadmill.
47. Limit your news consumption. – It’s important to be well-informed, but the non-stop feed of earthquakes and plane crashes and economic crisis and war is not good for us.  Be deliberate in finding a balance that’s best for you.  Once you’ve seen today’s news cycle, turn it off.
48. Say yes to life. – Opportunities are everywhere.  Take a class, join a team.  When new things present themselves to you – jump at the chance.
49. Stop hating your body. –   Your body is your body.  Nobody’s looking at your physical flaws because they’re all too busy trying to hide their own.  Let’s give ourselves a break and let it go.
50. Sing loudly. – In the shower and the car and anywhere else you like.  With reckless abandon.
51. Be kind. – Be nice to someone else.  You will have made the world a better place.  What feels better than that?
52. Tell someone you love them. – We often forget to say it out loud.  It matters.
53. Don’t answer the phone unless it’s someone you want to talk to right now. – Some people find it difficult not to answer a ringing phone, but it’s liberating once you learn to ignore it or even better, just turn it off.
54. Eliminate all expectations of perfection. – In fact, eliminate the word ‘perfect’ from your vocabulary.  If you expect yourself to be perfect, you will never stop beating yourself up.
55. Find a good way to blow off steam. – Bottling it up indefinitely will probably end badly.
56. Be who you are. – your authentic, true self.
57. Spend some time alone for quiet reflection. – We spend all of our time go, go, going.  Try stopping to think about your life, your goals, and your dreams.
58. Keep your words positive. – Happiness and complaints cannot coexist.
59. Turn off your cell phone, blackberry, fax, etc. for a while. – It’s not healthy to be accessible 24/7.
60. Avoid boredom. – Keep your brain active to keep the blues at bay.
61. Let go. – 80% of everything is irrelevant.  Focus on the other 20.
62. Minimize multi-tasking. – Yeah, women are supposed to be good at it, but that doesn’t make it good for us.
63. Plan ahead. – With a few minutes of organizing your time and to-do’s, you will be better prepared to take on the day.
64. Spend time with people who make you happy. – Who nourishes and supports you?  Surround yourself with those people.
65. Pay attention to your energy. – Are you most productive first thing in the morning?  Are you sluggish after lunch?  Honor your natural cycles and plan accordingly.